My mind has been all over the place lately. One thing that I've thought a lot about is having an open adoption. Joey and I have talked about this and are comfortable with doing it, as long as we've set parameters and are able to readjust depending on the child/children's needs and sometimes even the birth mother/birth father's needs.
A friend of mine, who is also a co-worker, had her grandchildren placed for adoption with the same couple, multiple times(her daughter would get pregnant, try to care for the child, realize she couldn't, then decide to place the child for adoption with this couple). The adoptive mother of these children created a blog that my friend/co-worker told me about and said that it may help me and provide support while we are "searching" for a child/children to adopt. The adoptive mother goes into detail about her story and how she felt at different times. The main point she makes throughout the blog is how wonderful it is to have an open relationship with the children's mother. She has posted pictures of them with their biological/birth mother along with letters she got permission to post from the birth mother and birth-grandmother(my friend). It is so neat to read the thoughts going through each person's mind that is involved with the adoption.
Having an open relationship with the birth mother/father of the child/children we adopt will be very special for both us and the child. Adoption is an unselfish act that birth mothers make, which makes them so dear to mine and Joey's heart. We are very grateful for having the opportunity to learn more about open adoption and how precious and special the open relationship can be. You can learn more about this wonderful adoptive mother and the journey she had, along with my friends journey with her daughter at http://theadoptivemother.blogspot.com
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